a question for other subs/slaves or anyone for that matter..

[tessa]

Hi, isabeau6. Welcome to our community.

It is indeed tragic when people lie. Especially when the lie is wrapped up into something we hold so close and dear.

So what does one do? Choose to believe in everyone or choose to believe in no one. Both are extremes and both won't serve you very well.

Widget up there gave some great links for you to go through and all the members who have posted for you here have given you excellent advice. And even though we don't know you very well, I hope you can tell we genuinely care.

It may take years (I know, that sucks), but finding the very right person can make the world shift in the right direction. In my opinion, it's best to take the time up front rather than suffer the heartache after.

All the best to you!

tessa

[isabeau6]

Hi, isabeau6. Welcome to our community.

It is indeed tragic when people lie. Especially when the lie is wrapped up into something we hold so close and dear.

So what does one do? Choose to believe in everyone or choose to believe in no one. Both are extremes and both won't serve you very well.

Widget up there gave some great links for you to go through and all the members who have posted for you here have given you excellent advice. And even though we don't know you very well, I hope you can tell we genuinely care.

It may take years (I know, that sucks), but finding the very right person can make the world shift in the right direction. In my opinion, it's best to take the time up front rather than suffer the heartache after.

All the best to you!

tessa

thank you for the welcome and for the advice...yes Widget's links are very helpful...i appreciate this..and wow i do believe you all care...sighs..i know i'm rather a sucker..i tend to believe everything...and it's like how do i know they aren't just saying what i wish to hear?

isabeau xoxo

[tessa]

isabeau6, I have two quotes for you (geeky, I know, but I am a quote whore).

First one by Oliver Wendell Holmes: "What is truth is what I can't help but believe."

Next one by Henry David Thoreau: "It takes two to speak the truth- one to speak and another to hear."

Ok, tessa, what the hell good does that do me? I'm glad you asked.

Be your own best friend. Don't rely on others to make you feel good about yourself. If you do that, you will believe anything you hear. And since you know that not everyone has your best interests at heart, only you can protect yourself. Once you are true to yourself, no one will be able to lie their way through you.

~hugs~
tessa

[isabeau6]

isabeau6, I have two quotes for you (geeky, I know, but I am a quote whore).

First one by Oliver Wendell Holmes: "What is truth is what I can't help but believe."

Next one by Henry David Thoreau: "It takes two to speak the truth- one to speak and another to hear."

Ok, tessa, what the hell good does that do me? I'm glad you asked.

Be your own best friend. Don't rely on others to make you feel good about yourself. If you do that, you will believe anything you hear. And since you know that not everyone has your best interests at heart, only you can protect yourself. Once you are true to yourself, no one will be able to lie their way through you.

~hugs~
tessa

thanks tessa...that makes absolute sense to me..i don't exactly or didn't exactly feel good about myself..and of course i know others don't have my best interests at heart...

thanks you are sweet and funny also hehe..

isabeau