a question for other subs/slaves or anyone for that matter..

[gagged_Louise]

If we're talking people who approach you online, I think puffed-up overconfidence and a wish to have "all at once" is, often, a sure sign that the Dominant is not very experienced. Good Doms know that you have to get to know the one you want for a sub , and they also realize that it takes a lot to be a sub or slave: you can't just, as a Dom/me expect to win them over by pulling all the stops and harshly commanding the sub to be acting like Traci Lords before you even know him/her. Taking on the part of a sub or slave is a tough choice, and a brave one: it merits respect even when you fail, even at the moment you're being punished, and good and experienced Doms know this.

- and yes, some of this also applies when meeting real-life Dominants, but I think that kind of bullying "stone tough" approach is less common with a Dom who tries to woo a new sub at a club or the like.

[isabeau6]

If we're talking people who aproach you online, I think puffed-up overconfidence and a wish to have "all at once" is, often, a sure sign that the Dominant is not very experienced. Good Doms know that you have to get to know the one you want for a sub , and they also realize that it takes a lot to be a sub or slave: you can't just, as a Dom/me expect to win them over by pulling all te stops and hrshly commanding the sub to be acting like Traci Lords before you even know him/her. Taking on the part of a sub or slave is a tough choice, and a brave one: it merits respect even when you fail, even at the moment you're being punished, and good and experienced Doms know this.

- and yes, some of this also applies when meeting real-life Dominants, but I think that kind of bullying "stone tough" approach is less common with a Dom who tries to woo a new sub at a club or the like.

thanks....the puffed up confidence could also be a front for insecurity down deep inside..and i don't wish to have a Dom who is insecure about themselves..

isabeau