Quote Originally Posted by Hime View Post
I have at times rethought what I believed were hard limits, not because my Master pushed me to rethink them, but because our relationship deepened over time and my trust for him grew. I have found myself volunteering to try things that I'd previously refused, out of eagerness to show my devotion and to submit further.
It's ok for you to create new limits as the relationship grows. It's NOT ok for a Dom to push hard limits. Hard limits are deal breakers. For instance, one of my hard limits is scat. If I tell VoodooMan NO scat, I expect him to respect that, not wait until I'm tied spreadeagle and take a dump on me anyway. Believe me, the relationship would end right then and there. That's why BDSM checklists, such as the one Sir Russell posted, are such a good idea. It can help you distinguish what is truly a hard limit and what is merely a soft limit in addition to revealing what activities you really enjoy.