I agree, Flamming Redhead. There are maybe's and then there are no's. Pushing the maybe's can be hot. Pushing the no's is disrespectful.

The whole afraid to want something is why there needs to be open, honest and REGULAR communication. I, for one, make sure that we revisit the question of limits in a safe space and check in to see if there are changes. I'm not going to do something from the no list when someone is tied down and sexually stimulated. Agreement then is less than consensual.