Pushing Hard Limits

[Flaming_Redhead]

This might seem strange, but as I read these posts I found myself totally agreeing with both of them....Does this make me wishy-washy, or is it a simple acknowledgment that experience makes a difference?

No, it really doesn't make you wishy-washy. It's just sad that someone would rather put something down as a NO instead of a MAYBE simply due to embarressment. I have a few absolute "no thank you" type activities, but I have very many "maybe" and "not-my-favorite-but-will-do-for-you" type activities. An example of a maybe activity involves paddles. I didn't list it as a hard limit (still don't), just a dislike. We have discovered that I am so terrified of paddles that my eyes welled up with tears at the mere mention of having one made. I have a very good reason for this. However, I have stated that if VoodooMan wishes to push this, he may do so. He has decided that, at least for now, it is in my best interest not to. An example of a not-my-favorite activity is oral sex. I have TMJ in my left jaw, so it can be a little uncomfortable at times to perform BJs, not to mention the gagging now and then. I do them anyway because he likes them.