I am in my late 20's and entering into the first relationship I've ever had with a man I feel comfortable callng my Dom. I have never called another lover "Sir," nor have even seriously considered it. Yet, my submissive tendancies have been a part of me for, well, as long as I can remember. I've tried to encourage this lifestyle with other partners, to nudge them into sharing my fantasies, so why such a long wait? Why did I always back away from other partners and why could I never before feel comfortable being the sub I had desired to be?

Simply, J-Go is the first partner I've had that has taken a such a considerable amount of time feeling out not only what I like but why, where my comfort levels are, and how to learn along with me. He asks questions, looks for feedback, and he is open and honest about his desires and expectations as well. His care for me is above and beyond the level of concern I have ever felt coming from another lover. I feel protected and safe even when we venture into experiences that frighten me a little or are uncomfortable to begin with. I trust him as a result of the concern he's shown me. Any one of my past boyfriends would have happily tied me up or spanked me or whatever else, but they would have done it because it was fun for them -- with J-Go it's a communion between us.

Both he and I are very new to the lifestyle and I know we both have plenty to learn but, to me, this is what makes him a "true" Dom.