Quote Originally Posted by Aadenn View Post
Please consider your dealings with 'wannabes' with a little bit more respect. We were all 'wannabes' at some point.

Ì think the basic premise of the original post is not that wannabes are new and inexperienced,but someone who claims to be somthing that they don't yet understand, and are unwilling to learn about, or someone who uses the Dominant personality to thier advantage.

I loathe the word true, as much as I hate using the term natural, but I think they are used to convey someone who is basically inclined to be Dominant or submissive, one who learns to utalize and embrace that part of themselves.


When I started perusing different sites I was a bit deflated by the people who had started to contact me. Not one self proclaimed Dominant wanted to help me out with the confusion of what I was trying to figure out, but wanted me to submit fully to them immediately. Most wanted a sex cam show, calling it a service to them. I had the impression that BDSM was a cover for the ultimate trolls.

There are genuine people here who are looking for someone to compliment thier own wants and needs, and then there are others who see an advantage to use a title of Dom and seek out vulnerable subs to use for thier own agenda.

I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, (I was new and very confused about everything at one time and was always shunned by others because I failed to understand myself fully), when I go to chat I am a bit offended by others who want me to roleplay, spell out my fantasies or listen to thiers. They want some easy fap material, and that is not what I want to provide.

So no one is bashing new and inexperienced people, but the ones who come here to use this place as thier own personal playground, and assume that submissives are only too eager to comply.