I have not jet lived a real D/s relationship , still I think I have something to say to this... Iīs about feeling comfortable... Some people i still feel comfortable around even if they know. My best friend e.g. is fully aware about what I dream of and that i sumit to an onlinemaster. She would never comment on it, itīs my choice what I do and she likes me nonetheless. This is something I was sure about, so I told her. To have someone I can talk with about my problems, to have someone covering for me, consoling me if anything goes wrong.
But I would never tell my family, as I know they would freak out. When we watch a film and therīs one of those typical exagerated prototypical BDSM scenes in there, they will imediately make fun of what they see, believing that all BDSM is about men going to a Dominatrix and paying for being whipped. They would never understand and I would not feel comfortable around them.
As for working: I work in a mens domaine and its very common there that they read sexual connotations into whatever you say. They make fun, they pose intimate questions, try to get you to blush as a female...the only thing not to be the one humiliated all the time (which I do not like at all from those I do not submit to) ist do pay them every comment back.. so I tell them a lot, even letting slip things like: "youīd really need a spanking , can I help you with this?" or other things that direktly hint at the lifestyle. Still or even because of this they would never imagine that Iīm really into this
I would never really want them to know, because than I wouldnīt stand a chance there. But it can be really fun telling them directly without them knowing what youīre into
Total strangers I donīt mind at all. I do not have any problem walking into a shop, wearing a short skirt but no pantys because the ones who can hurt me most are the ones I care about. Not strangers that I will never see again. What can they do apart from making comments? But it would really hurt if my family thought bad about me
greetings to the lot of you
deigja