Young sub troubles

[TomOfSweden]

I have been having trouble finding any dom male or female since I turned eighteen two and half years ago. I don't know if it is because of my age or my lack of experience, or what but I have been looking on various sites, like collarme.com, I looked for local area munches but there isn't much in the various locations I have ended up living the last couple years (going to college and all that) now I am interning and it seems like I still am cursed to not find anyone. Does anyone have any hints or suggestions I am just about given up on finding someone.

Your problems could be any number of things so I won't speculate too much. But I've got a few sub friends who have the same problem. It could simply be down to statistics. They don't go out enough.

Dominant guys don't only hang on BDSM Internet sites. They're everywhere, and usually quite easy to pick out from a crowd. And Internet is not a good place to judge a persons character. IMHO. And submissives have a tendency to be a bit passive while out on the town. I think the only solution is to once in a while is to break your nature and just speak up, "ooo, you have big hands. I bet they can get girls bottoms very red".

My experience is that dominant guys are very popular among women in general. So here's the problem. The dominant guys want submissive women, but are only exposed to the more aggressive women, (which they don't really see themselves with other than for a quick shag) and the submissive women usually disappear in a crowd, and end up talking to some nerdy bookworm who's feeling lucky only because she's too submissive and care about his feelings to tell him that she's not interested, and then the dominant guy sees that she's already taken so he might as well get busy with the annoying but hot aggressive chick.

I'm well aware that this might only be my own experiences and is very much flavoured by the submissives I have met. But the simply truth is that many great dominant guys don't visit the BDSM world, and unless you get out and about you won't find them.

I haven't met any of my slaves in the BDSM scene. I think the BDSM world is great for being in once you've found mr right, but I don't think it's a good place to find him. There's too many loser guys attracted to the scene who systematically prey on women who are as desperate as they are.

But this is seeing things, purely from a European perspective. It might be different in US of A. And it might also be completely unrelated and irrelevant.

[moonlitsub]

no its true when it comes to the social scene over here. i do break loose and get rowdy but i have been overwhelmed with work and a few other things for much real life socialization outside of the small college town i was in for awhile. Thank you all so much for telling me not to give up. i still am somewhat of a teenager at times, thinking i should give up on love, but seeing all the positive out pour here shows that maybe i just have been looking in the wrong places. If i can't find a dom/mes, well i know i defiantly have friends here.

[TomOfSweden]

If i can't find a dom/mes, well i know i defiantly have friends here.

Yes

[mirage030303]

Your problems could be any number of things so I won't speculate too much. But I've got a few sub friends who have the same problem. It could simply be down to statistics. They don't go out enough.

Dominant guys don't only hang on BDSM Internet sites. They're everywhere, and usually quite easy to pick out from a crowd. And Internet is not a good place to judge a persons character. IMHO. And submissives have a tendency to be a bit passive while out on the town. I think the only solution is to once in a while is to break your nature and just speak up, "ooo, you have big hands. I bet they can get girls bottoms very red".

My experience is that dominant guys are very popular among women in general. So here's the problem. The dominant guys want submissive women, but are only exposed to the more aggressive women, (which they don't really see themselves with other than for a quick shag) and the submissive women usually disappear in a crowd, and end up talking to some nerdy bookworm who's feeling lucky only because she's too submissive and care about his feelings to tell him that she's not interested, and then the dominant guy sees that she's already taken so he might as well get busy with the annoying but hot aggressive chick.

I'm well aware that this might only be my own experiences and is very much flavoured by the submissives I have met. But the simply truth is that many great dominant guys don't visit the BDSM world, and unless you get out and about you won't find them.

I haven't met any of my slaves in the BDSM scene. I think the BDSM world is great for being in once you've found mr right, but I don't think it's a good place to find him. There's too many loser guys attracted to the scene who systematically prey on women who are as desperate as they are.

But this is seeing things, purely from a European perspective. It might be different in US of A. And it might also be completely unrelated and irrelevant.

Tom, i soo agree with this comment, i live in eastern canada and it works exacly like that here.