Young sub troubles

[Sir_Russell]

The truth is that I have all ways been able to spot the submissive lovely lady and if she is not married then the nerd is going to have trouble.

Many of the woman I have been with didn't know they were submissives before they met me.

[TomOfSweden]

The truth is that I have all ways been able to spot the submissive lovely lady and if she is not married then the nerd is going to have trouble.

Many of the woman I have been with didn't know they were submissives before they met me.

he he. If I'd only known that when I was younger I would have made many more subs happy, and them me. It took me a long time to figure it out. And now I wonder why it took so long.

I'm guessing it's the same all over the world, but here in Sweden women of all ages are bombarded with propaganda telling them that they're basically traitors to their gender if they're submissive to a man. Don't get me wrong. In the big picture, it's probably a good thing. But I cannot imagine this makes life as a submissive woman today any less confusing.

[moonlitsub]

Hmm it some how seems that my self online is being portrayed as a female. i apologize if there is a misunderstanding perhaps my avatar is feminine in some peoples eyes but i am a male. though all that advice thus far has been most helpful and informative. thank you all and sorry for any misidentification of my gender.

[TomOfSweden]

Hmm it some how seems that my self online is being portrayed as a female. i apologize if there is a misunderstanding perhaps my avatar is feminine in some peoples eyes but i am a male. though all that advice thus far has been most helpful and informative. thank you all and sorry for any misidentification of my gender.

he he. But the same still applies, it's just a different set of pressures to deal with.

[moonlitsub]

yes very true, it makes for interesting "guy talk" when they start talking about who would do who, and all I can think about is being pinned down and made to take what ever she wants.

[icey]

The truth is that I have all ways been able to spot the submissive lovely lady and if she is not married then the nerd is going to have trouble.

Many of the woman I have been with didn't know they were submissives before they met me.

this is so true, and the opposite too. subs tend automatically to 'spot' the Doms often without realising it or often bring out the Dominant side of people who dont yet realise it.

the downside to it is they often veer towards abusive people too.
im not sure that subs dont go out as often TomOfSweden but they are certainly more passive and much less likely to approach someone they're attracted to, but we're also often much better than our friends at flirting subtly which most men seem to prefer.

sometimes a good place to hang out can be gay clubs surprisingly as they tend to know many people or places for people to go in the lifestyle,both straight and gay.
people are generally more friendly and many take the effort to get to know the more submissive people perhaps its because they can recognise and empathise with that feeling of being slightly 'different'.

not much help sorry and as everyone else has said there's no rush and you're still young get out and enjoy yourself

note i used the term gay although most of my gay male friends were forever calling themselves and each other fags,bitches and queers lol and the women generally referred to themselves as lemons and lezzies.