Coming out of the Sub Closet

[Slutsie]

Even if it does seem like you are making suggestions I would have to ask what is wrong with that. He may be very grateful for your ideas and suggestions, I know I would. You don't need to choreograph all the moves, let him take control if he is interested.

I guess I just find it hard emotionally to admit how I like to be treated. I'm so worried he's going to turn round and call me a freak (because I'm rather insecure you see). We've spoken about this and he was very comforting and assured me he doesn't think I'm abnormal for wanting to be tied up/spanked. I'm just concerned that telling him some of my other more uncommon fantasies he'll think I am. Sorry - babbling in circles.
I suppose all I can do is slowly open up to him and leave the rest to him as you say, if it catches his interest.

As was stated, he may not be as vanilla as you suspect so telling him your fantasies and desires is a great means of communicating. You'll know if he likes what he is hearing or not since you know him fairly well already.

I was pleasently suprised the other morning when he let me do something very unvanilla (for us lol) while giving him head - neither of us had seen it coming, it just sort of happened and worked. Previously he'd always said this was a no go area, but he enjoyed it and so did I. So yes, he is not as vanilla as I used to think he was.

If the shoe were on the other foot wouldn't you want him to confide in you? This saves looking for what you need and want elsewhere. Best of luck and you do have youth on your side.

I'd definatly want him to confide in me if the shoe was on the other foot. Thanks for the well wishes and thanks for your help, I appreciate it ^_^