J-Go and I started out much the same way, though both of us are a little older. Our ages worked to our advantage in the sense that we are both in more self-assured places than your typical 20-somethings; but it also could have added an element of difficulty as we could have decided we were both too "set in our ways" to change. I saw that J had strong Dom tendancies, so I started the same way you did: sending Him to look at The Library and letting Him come back to me with the stories that turned Him on the most. I would take cues from them to please Him. In bed I would take a sub posture (such as putting my hands above my head etc.) and when I talked dirty to him during sex I would call Him "Sir," ask Him to do things to me, and ask what I could do to please Him. In the heat of passion many things seem pretty reasonable as compared to just busting out "hey baby I like to be bound and cropped" over a bowl of cereal at the breakfast table.

Best of luck!