While I agree with most of what has been said I feel i must urge a\ word of catuion. i have had bondage sex with my current vanilla partner but there is no way she would ever understand some of the urges i have and act out with my online partner here. Do not assume becos he is happy to tie u up he will automatically move on to other things. I suggest a softly soflty approach. See how it goes with the bondage sex and take it from there. Sorry to be a killjoy but think u need a balanced view.