Quote Originally Posted by SAE View Post
While I agree with most of what has been said I feel i must urge a\ word of catuion. i have had bondage sex with my current vanilla partner but there is no way she would ever understand some of the urges i have and act out with my online partner here. Do not assume becos he is happy to tie u up he will automatically move on to other things. I suggest a softly soflty approach. See how it goes with the bondage sex and take it from there. Sorry to be a killjoy but think u need a balanced view.
i totally agree with this,

not just because he might not understand or be shocked by your fantasys and urges but for safety reasons too,or at least as safe as any bdsm activity can be (including light bondage) trying new things is great but if you're into anything extreme or even just a flogging/whipping etc it needs researching practice and to be built up to gradually for both your sakes.

sorry im the one being a killjoy now lol