Coming out of the Sub Closet

[Slutsie]

Thanks so much Polaris for your advice. Yes we have had a discussion or two on when he does give me pain and I react by moaning (in pain)/saying "owww". He isn't sure when too much is too much, but I've told him basically it's all good (what he's done to me up to this point has been all good ^_^). Perhaps we need a safe word just in case things get too heated - more on that in a minute.

I'm gonna get a little descriptive of last nights events now, just to warn anyone who doesn't want to know!

Last night I got all dolled up for him in stockings and such and seduced him into bed. We started having sex - which of course is great even if it was just "regular" sex. I was really horny but I just couldn't get into it - I know I should have said something then (like suggested he pinch my nipples or something).
We stopped and chatted for a while - thankfully we were able to both laugh about the situation. Then he asked me what he could have done to have got me more into it, so I gave him a few pointers on what would really get me going.
Then out of the blue he sort of commanded me to turn around and sit on his lap facing his feet and then put my hands over my ears and start humming (I hummed star wars hehe). I thought he was taking the piss at first, but when he tapped me on the shoulder to signal to stop, he told me to put my hands behind my back - wrists together.
I still didn't realise what he was up to, I thought he was just testing the waters and seeing what commands I'd follow through, but then he tied my wrists together with a bandana and blindfolded me with another one and then pushed me forward and I'm sure you can figure out what went on from there.
I was so happy, it's the first time I'd ever lived out my fantasy of being tied up and fucked. He really suprised me too because he whispered in my ear would I like him to take me up my bum. Up untill last week he told me he found the whole idea of this disgusting and it was something he'd never try. This was where we needed a safe word because I declined (I want to start small in that area if you know what I mean - being practically an anal virgin) and he didn't know if I was just saying no but meaning yes (it's ok, I managed to persuade him not to).
After the sex we talked a bit (I talked - he tried to sleep...*sigh*). I asked him if he found tying me up sexy and he replied that he didn't find it any sexier than vanilla sex. But I think there is hope because at least he was willing to dabble in my fantasy and it was the best sex I've ever had (I told him this and it made him smile (sleepily...))

Sorry if that was long and a little boring for all you kinky folks out there who get up to much naughtier stuff but I just feel so happy about last night. Who knows, this could be the beginning of a very long and intense journey *crosses fingers*.