Protocol?

[Whippett]

Hi Amber,

You are meeting someone you know - sort of - but not really. Talk to J and ask him what he expects of you at this meeting.

I doubt you're planning anything more than a meeting between friends (or potential friends at least - there is sometimes a difference between on-line friends and people you know in person). Discuss it with J-Go and perhaps J and the other Dom will set ground-rules concerning the meeting - that it is just a meeting of potential friends, and that no play of any kind is welcome or expected. Then stick to the ground rules

Be respectful and show as much respect as the person has earned and demonstrated he is worth being shown. But bear in mind, this Dom is not your Dom. J-Go is. And J-Go is the only Dom you should submit to unless he requires otherwise.

You have no need to submit to anyone who has not earned your submission. In fact, it is wrong to submit just because the person is a Dom. He is not your Dom and has not earned your submission. Be friendly, be pleasant, be your normal self, but order your own food and drink, and leave on your own and take a taxi back to your hotel alone.

Since you have only met on-line - you really don't know everything there is to know about this person. Not everyone on the internet is who they portray themselves to be, after all, and you have no real way of knowing if the private person and public "forum" person are the same.

I know what I'm like - and that I'm trustworthy - but you don't know me - just my words. Were you meeting me, I would expect you to call J-Go when I arrived at the restaurant to meet you, and would expect you to call him during the meal as well - in front of me. I would be concerned about your safety were I in his shoes - and you are meeting a stranger in many respects.

I would also expect to wait at the table after you left - normally I'd wait for a good half hour or so, to let you go without fear that I'd be following you - or I would leave first if you preferred.

Have fun, but your submission belongs to J-Go, and only to him unless he tells you otherwise.

[gemmy]

I know what I'm like - and that I'm trustworthy - but you don't know me - just my words. Were you meeting me, I would expect you to call J-Go when I arrived at the restaurant to meet you, and would expect you to call him during the meal as well - in front of me. I would be concerned about your safety were I in his shoes - and you are meeting a stranger in many respects.

I would also expect to wait at the table after you left - normally I'd wait for a good half hour or so, to let you go without fear that I'd be following you - or I would leave first if you preferred.

Awesome safety advice Whippet! I hadn't ever thought about the waiting thing, thank you very much for this

[Whippett]

Awesome safety advice Whippet! I hadn't ever thought about the waiting thing, thank you very much for this

Hi mastersgem

Predators need to be watched for - and you never know if you're meeting one - especially when you're going with a view to possible submission to someone - so never take your own car - rent or take a taxi. Don't let the Dom overhear where you want to be dropped - or give a totally wrong address to the driver and then correct your destination once he's underway...and make sure either you or the Dom leave well before the other - and that you aren't followed when you do leave.

There are many things a predator can use to get information that leads him right to your door - and you want to keep those things as far away from the possibility of discovery as possible until you have enough trust to prevent the possibility of being stalked or worse. So if you take rental car - leave your drivers licence and anything with your address in the car or keep your purse with you at all times - even when you go to the washroom.

Of course, he could do a reverse trace on your phone number as well.

As a matter of course, when I was in the market, I kept a copy of a police report on me and a recent full STD scan available to provide on request. I don't know what it's called in the UK or elsewhere - but here is't called a CPIC. The police will do them on request for a small fee. Basically, when you request one they run a computer search to see if you have a police record of any sort. I know in Canada they use the RCMP database for the CPIC - and the RCMP is linked to Interpol, so the report really does do more than just a local "warrants and charges" search. People who want to be bonded (for work, for example) are usually asked to provide a CPIC as part of the application process.

Both are useful items to request of a new Dom in your life - and I usually don't wait to be asked - I just hand them over to the girl. The nice thing about a CPIC is they are registered documents - and you can request a validation if you wish (just take it to a police station and ask for a validation - lol - a forged CPIC is a criminal offence). I usually ask the girl to provide a full STD scan at the first real session - so - if the initial meeting goes well, I'll instruct a girl to have a full STD scan for me for the next meeting.