Quote Originally Posted by casie1124 View Post
So if tomorrow your dom, or domme which ever the case maybe decided they no longer wanted a d/s relationship would you be able to conduct a vanilla relationship with them?

I ask simply because this is what happened to me. I had been collared to my husband for a very long time when one day he woke up and decided he no longer wanted. We still have kinky sex. I'm trying my best, but I have a deep seeded resentment against him for doing this. I feel betrayed. I'm just not sure if I can live like this and be truly happy. Perhaps love and devotion isn't enough? Are these natural feelings you can imagine you would experience in the same situation or am I being selfish only looking at my own needs?
I really can't answer from a sub's perspective but I can certainly answer from a human point of view. My answer would be I would hope that your marriage was based more on love for each other than on BDSM activities. If that is not the case it may have been doomed from the start. Sorry to be so blunt but I do believe that love has to be first and foremost in any marriage for it to have even a fighting chance to survive all of today's temptations.