Could you go back?

[casie1124]

Casie, I suggest moving on. This guy helped you in figuring out what you want. By having this relationship he also figured out that he didn't like it. We all have to go through this trial and error thing in relationships.

I don't think you should have resentment toward your ex-master. He's just being human, and you can't blame a human doing what ordinary humans do.

But you should move on. You obviously need to be a collared slave, and you ain't getting it with this guy. End it. Tell him you still love him and you think he's a great guy, but it just isn't enough for you.

You're also wasting his time now. He wants a woman who's needs he can fulfil. He obviously can't fulfil your needs without doing violence to his nature. So much he figured out in your earlier relationship.

Do the right thing for both of you... just end it. Find another guy. A guy who will fill all your needs.

Maybe the search will lead you to realise that the guy you have now is a gem worth keeping, maybe? But you'll never know unless you find out. and you'll never do that by keeping this relationship.

While I completely understand what you are saying and where you are coming from, it's not so black and white for me. I take marriage very seriously. I have invested a lot of time and effort into a relationship with someone I do truly care about. Thats hard to abruptly walk away from. At least not until there is open communication about what is really going on and if any compromises are possible. Which is apparently finally happening tonight, thank goodness.

[Warbaby1943]

While I completely understand what you are saying and where you are coming from, it's not so black and white for me. I take marriage very seriously. I have invested a lot of time and effort into a relationship with someone I do truly care about. Thats hard to abruptly walk away from. At least not until there is open communication about what is really going on and if any compromises are possible. Which is apparently finally happening tonight, thank goodness.

That is great. Hope all works out well for you.

[TomOfSweden]

While I completely understand what you are saying and where you are coming from, it's not so black and white for me. I take marriage very seriously. I have invested a lot of time and effort into a relationship with someone I do truly care about. Thats hard to abruptly walk away from. At least not until there is open communication about what is really going on and if any compromises are possible. Which is apparently finally happening tonight, thank goodness.

I've been in your shoes, so I know what you're going through. I broke up with my ex-wife/ex-slave after 6,5 years, most of it as married. When we married, she was the woman of my dreams. When we broke up, she wasn't. I had invested a tremendous amount into that relationship, and we both took it very seriously. We had serious plans for what to do when we retired and what to do with the kids we were going to get. Our mistake was that we tried to work out our differences until the love was gone. We ruined what we had. We're not friends now. We're not enemies, it's just meh.... I don't know if it would have been different if we'd broken up when it was salvageable.

Yes, talking is the solution.

[Mr.FixIt]

I've been in your shoes, so I know what you're going through. I broke up with my ex-wife/ex-slave after 6,5 years, most of it as married. When we married, she was the woman of my dreams. When we broke up, she wasn't. I had invested a tremendous amount into that relationship, and we both took it very seriously. We had serious plans for what to do when we retired and what to do with the kids we were going to get. Our mistake was that we tried to work out our differences until the love was gone. We ruined what we had. We're not friends now. We're not enemies, it's just meh.... I don't know if it would have been different if we'd broken up when it was salvageable.

Yes, talking is the solution.

Talking is the solution. As you may know my slave and I are fairly new to this lifestyle. When she has failed to meet my expectations, I also backslid into our previous method of arguing and playing the blame game. When the arguments got bad I, also, told her that " I'm tired of playing this game--You can't be controlled." I've given up many times--and almost given up on us. Have you done something to provoke this situation that you are in? If he's relatively new to the whole lifestyle, he may just be frustrated and doesn't know how to resolve the argument AND save face for himself. If I am correct in my assumption, apologize to him for your mistakes and specify to him how you will improve. If I am not correct, then I have been wrong four times this month and I have exceeded my quota (coined a phrase!)!