Could you go back?

[gemmy]

Casie, I suggest moving on. This guy helped you in figuring out what you want. By having this relationship he also figured out that he didn't like it. We all have to go through this trial and error thing in relationships.

I don't think you should have resentment toward your ex-master. He's just being human, and you can't blame a human doing what ordinary humans do.

But you should move on. You obviously need to be a collared slave, and you ain't getting it with this guy. End it. Tell him you still love him and you think he's a great guy, but it just isn't enough for you.

You're also wasting his time now. He wants a woman who's needs he can fulfil. He obviously can't fulfil your needs without doing violence to his nature. So much he figured out in your earlier relationship.

Do the right thing for both of you... just end it. Find another guy. A guy who will fill all your needs.

Maybe the search will lead you to realise that the guy you have now is a gem worth keeping, maybe? But you'll never know unless you find out. and you'll never do that by keeping this relationship.

Sorry to be completely selfish but I'm with Tom on this, I think once opened and realized, there is no going back - and it's crap to stay in a relationship because of what it 'used' to be or might be again (that's like using the age old "I only stayed for the children" bullsh*t line - please!) - it changed, evolved into what it was and it met both their needs, it isn't anymore and to cling to what was is a complete waste of precious happiness