There have been several folks that have mentioned that love should come first, should be unconditional, so on and so forth (I'm paraphrasing for the sake of expediancy here). True enough, I agree with these statements.

However, for a lot of folks in the Lifestyle I would venture to say that our BDSM activities are more than an "add on" to the love and trust we share with our partner, those activities are an expression of it. If J-Go were to throw in the proverbial towel on Domming tomorrow, my first thought would be to wonder what deeper issue exists, not to simply to mourn the loss of my kinky sex activities. For us, I would think there would be larger issues at stake affecting the whole of our relationship. I don't know if I'd feel betrayed or resentful per se, but like the OP I would certainly be questioning things.

To move forward, sometimes backtracking is required. So, to the OP I would suggest taking the focus off the symptom and seeing if there is another issue at the source. Maybe there is, maybe there isn't, but it's worthwhile to look, right?