Quote Originally Posted by TomOfSweden View Post
I've been in your shoes, so I know what you're going through. I broke up with my ex-wife/ex-slave after 6,5 years, most of it as married. When we married, she was the woman of my dreams. When we broke up, she wasn't. I had invested a tremendous amount into that relationship, and we both took it very seriously. We had serious plans for what to do when we retired and what to do with the kids we were going to get. Our mistake was that we tried to work out our differences until the love was gone. We ruined what we had. We're not friends now. We're not enemies, it's just meh.... I don't know if it would have been different if we'd broken up when it was salvageable.

Yes, talking is the solution.
Talking is the solution. As you may know my slave and I are fairly new to this lifestyle. When she has failed to meet my expectations, I also backslid into our previous method of arguing and playing the blame game. When the arguments got bad I, also, told her that " I'm tired of playing this game--You can't be controlled." I've given up many times--and almost given up on us. Have you done something to provoke this situation that you are in? If he's relatively new to the whole lifestyle, he may just be frustrated and doesn't know how to resolve the argument AND save face for himself. If I am correct in my assumption, apologize to him for your mistakes and specify to him how you will improve. If I am not correct, then I have been wrong four times this month and I have exceeded my quota (coined a phrase!)!