I definitely agree with you, fetishdj. There have been so many times when I've been in other chat rooms and a Domme would be in the room and all the male subs would immediately flock to her. No greeting anyone else in the room, no just joining in other conversations, etc. They make a beeline for the Domme. And so many of the male subs were so eager, so whiny, so desparate that the Domme spent all her time slapping the subs on ignore. This always made me glad that I was not a Domme. I've never wanted that kind of attention.

I think one reason why the Doms don't seem to have that kind of trouble is that female subs are trained to be more subtle around them, if they want to find a serious relationship with a Dom. Yes, there are subs who are flirts, who will play with just about any Dom who shows an interest, who will play with other subs as well as Dom/mes. But they don't seem to have that "desperate" quality that the male subs have. For these female subs, they seem to be there to have fun and not have the attitude of "if I don't get what I want right now, I'm gonna die!" (though I have seen some desperate female subs as well, but not as many as male subs).

To be honest, I think that most of the Dommes I've met online have been bisexual.