Actually I didn't have a problem with that part. I actually think it's polite. We're not dealing with sexism or anything here. It's just a nice thing to do, and I do the same when dealing with a Dom. If I befriend him/her I talk to their sub. If all works out, I'll have two friends instead of just one. However, I simply think it's polite, and saves potential trouble for all parties concerned in the future.