Quote Originally Posted by wonderworld View Post
This is my first post so bear with me. I found all the traits you described to be exactly what I am looking for personally. For lack of ability to find a man that enjoys exuding these "old school" traits and manners, I have come here. Part of the draw to this lifestyle is the immense amount of respect and cherishing that I crave. I think your average modern guy does not cherish a woman nearly enough. They don't have to go this extra mile and we do not normally command that intense attention. Because I am a strong independant woman, I personally crave extra caring and nurturing and "politeness" from men. Thank you for helping me realize I am indeed in the right place for me and that my ideal does exist.
Your ideal does indeed exist, and to at least some small degree, it is being passed on. I raised two sons exactly like that (they are, however, taken), and one, who has a son now (2.5 years old) is already teaching him to value women highly, and show it with these traits you refer to. The respect and cherishing you mention are simply symptoms of valuing a woman; first, simply because she is a woman and therefore possesses the intrinsic value of being a woman (speaking, as J did, from the straight man's perspective, and allowing for those in other perspectives to adapt the principle to their perspective). After that, the value grows as the woman earns even more respect, by her attitudes, and to some degree, by her actions.