Gender to me is something rather interesting to recount.
For one, I feel that all females should be submissive, and all males, Dominant, but that's my personal feelings and I don't force these things on other people, especially not my friends. To this end, I feel that with women I'm generally more 'hard', in the sense that I feel they should be at their Masters' feet, and with men I am generally more 'soft', as in, I am more submissive toward them. My theory is rather hypocritical, I realize, because I basically just contradicted my first statement in saying that I tend to be dominant toward women and submissive toward men. I never claimed my logic was without flaw though, and I fully admit to being a filthy, dirty hypocrite.

Anyway. I differentiate with gender in that sense. With men I am attracted to Dominance. With women I am attracted to submissiveness. This is not to say I'm a switch. Far from it. It's just my views. I've never had the urge to smack some woman's ass, or pull her hair back and call her a dumb cunt. But I DO have the urge to have it done to me by the right guy. ;D