I don't "do" vanilla anymore. I'm a full-fledged, dungeon-membership-card-carrying, kinky pervert. Of course, I still get hit on in bars all the time. I just look at them and grin. Then, I spout something off about being a dominatrix (I never tell them I'm a sub, and they wouldn't know what a switch is...unless it's on the wall....which is about the only thing they know how to turn on). It's quite obvious by the looks on their faces that they don't have a freakin' clue. I have absolutely no interest in getting to know a man romantically unless I already know he's dominant. Vanilla sex just doesn't cut it for me. It really never has since I've always been "disconnected" during the act and 99% of the time couldn't cum. Now that I know what I need, I refuse to go on dates with "normal" guys and try to explain what I'm into, only to discover that they think I'm sick. I also don't want to train a man. If I did, I'd be dating slaves. At least you can beat them when they don't get it right! *lol*