Adding Others to a pre-exisiting Relationship

[jeanne]

My bottom line on these things is as stated; 1) If it impacts my Relationship with my Partner in some way 2) If something has occured or is wished for that will require Re-Negotiation between my Partner and I, That is all I really Need To Know.

Respectfully~SidheWolf

This is where I am with it also. I think the difficulty comes in when I am chatting with her and she tells me something about her interactions with Him that causes some of those emotions to arise. Just plain ole jealousy usually - but that is becoming a non-issue as we grow in this. I have expressed my desire to not hear 'details' after realizing that was a problem for me, and that request is being respected by both of them.

It's just a matter of learning, thinking, communicating...and making mistakes sometimes, which is the best teacher of all.

[sidhewolf]

This is where I am with it also. I think the difficulty comes in when I am chatting with her and she tells me something about her interactions with Him that causes some of those emotions to arise. Just plain ole jealousy usually - but that is becoming a non-issue as we grow in this. I have expressed my desire to not hear 'details' after realizing that was a problem for me, and that request is being respected by both of them.

It's just a matter of learning, thinking, communicating...and making mistakes sometimes, which is the best teacher of all.

<nods> Though you have mentioned the "distance" between yourself and Sir Ozme. So maybe it's not Really jealousy, but more Envy? Definitions that come to mind now are;

Jealousy= The belief or feeling that someone else has something that belongs to oneself.

Envy= The desire to have something someone else has.

So maybe even a bit of each?

It's quite natural for Friends to discuss things they are into. And since this other person is also your Friend, must be a little tough on her not to be able to share some things with you now, that were it not Sir Ozme she's interacting with, she would be able to? At the same time it's great that you've identified your own triggers to your discomfort, and have addressed them And set some Bounderies. Which are being Respected. And that's also great I think

You and Sir Ozme have been together a while now, and been through a lot. I have every confidence in the Both of You that Ya'll will Both Learn and Grow as You go . Anything worth having takes Time and Work. And Ya'll seem to be doing it

Huggs to You Both, and Brightest of Blessings.

Respectfully~SidheWolf