Rachel, I don't think about being in a Doms shoes...ever. The idea is just not appealing to me. And I didn't think others did either. But you learn something new everyday.

I'm not saying one can't experience what it's like to be on the other side of the fence. I'm saying that one should acknowledge that they are in between roles if they choose to do so. It was once my opinion that you shouldn't call yourself a Dom if you are submitting to another. Keep in mind, I'm talking about submission and dominance in terms of the bdsm lifestyle. Not work or in a social group.

I acknowledge that their is a difference between being bi-sexual and simply experimenting. But that's the part that I don't think others get. Sure, if you kiss someone who is your own sex, that doesn't automatically make you bi-sexual. But I don't think you're straight anymore either. I think you are curious or experimenting. But I can't see how you can stay straight and do that anymore than I can see someone submit but still call themselves a Dom. Maybe a new label is in order. I just get so confused when I talk to Doms. I start talking to them and they say they are Dom. But then they go on about how they have fantasies about submitting occasionally. I find that misleading. When I think 'Dom', I feel there should be no submission in his heart as far as bdsm is concerned. Just like if I see someone who is 'straight', there should be no sexual same-sex interests either. Because then it gets confusing. When someone says 'Dominant' you don't know what they mean anymore if you follow the logic that you can have submissive tendencies but still be dominant. Does this mean I have to ask every single men in detail how dominant they are? Once again, wouldn't that defeat the purpose of the labels?