why bother with titles anymore?

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"I find that misleading. When I think 'Dom', I feel there should be no submission in his heart as far as bdsm is concerned."

I think this is too simplistic a view. Over the years I've met a number of ladies who are sub to men, but Domme to other ladies. How would you categorize them?

And if a Domme likes to have her breasts whipped, or if a Dom enjoys being bound, and they have their subs perform accordingly, does that make the individual less dominant. They are using their dominant trait to further their own pleasure - isn't that dominance?

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I think this is too simplistic a view. Over the years I've met a number of ladies who are sub to men, but Domme to other ladies. How would you categorize them?

Switch.

And if a Domme likes to have her breasts whipped, or if a Dom enjoys being bound, and they have their subs perform accordingly, does that make the individual less dominant. They are using their dominant trait to further their own pleasure - isn't that dominance?

It kinda does, actually. If MY dom suddenly demanded that I tie him up and beat him, it would totally ruin the dynamic. I'm a switch, but I want my dom to be 100% dominant with no additives, fillers, extra sugar, etc. Have you ever taken a drink from a fast food cup thinking there was soda in the cup but got iced tea? It's *not* good. That's why using the correct label is important. It's a starting point to getting to know someone. I don't want to invest time getting to know someone only to discover that they're not who I thought they were. By the same token, I don't tell potential partners I'm 100% submissive or an alpha submissive or any other hoohaa. If they can't get past the word "switch," it's their loss.