It's not about sex

[voxelectronica]

Damn you Oz! you have all the answers for everyone else but not me

I think even if you took away all the nude porn adds from this site people who looked over my shoulder would see BDSM and still think I'm after sex.

[thir]

I think even if you took away all the nude porn adds from this site people who looked over my shoulder would see BDSM and still think I'm after sex.

Speaking of which, I often find these pictures a great put-off - like a huge overdose! Anyone else tired of them?
And they are all women! Maybe it would be easier if some of them were men..

That aside, I do not find it weird that you want to stay with the culture. It is like - when you are in a foreign country you meet up with your country men and women - someone who share your background. Or if you were in a religious group, you would want to be with these people who understood you. Or if you had a chronic disease, you may want to be with others with the same, because they just know what you are talking about without a lot of explanations.

I do not find it odd, but people may because they do not know how much you have to explain when not with your 'own kind'.