Abusive Submissives

[tessa]

The problem only arises if one is deliberately untruthful or neglects to mention something that they know their partner would want to know.

This is exactly what this is all about. Deliberate acts of omission and untruthfulness.

But in my opinion it's only natural to present yourself at your best when embarking on a relationship, and there are appropriate times for certain revelations, not neccessarily the first date.

The embarking between a Dominant and a submissive is a much different one than what would be had on a vanilla first date. And while revealing all does indeed happen over time in every relationship, if the D/s dynamic is sought from each other, revealing happens sooner and much more openly. Or should. Otherwise, damage can certainly happens.

This is a lovely ideal - complete openess, honesty, joining as one.....

More than just an ideal. Much, much more.