True Control

[JimmyJump]

I guess I just have to put in a dissenting opinion.

The submissive cedes power and control to the dominant, (and the dominant takes it,) because it is mutually beneficial to do so.

Just because the sub can take it back, in no way changes the fact that for that period of time, the dominant is the wielder of the power.

My control is not an illusion. If you insist that it is, then the submission that goes with it is even more illusory. In which case, there is no gift at all because it has no value.

Absolutely, Oz. But it's a symbiosys. Ying and Yang. There has to be a balance and that balance is provided by, on the one hand the dominant, and on the other the submissive.

When there's dominance without voluntary submission (unless the submissive wants to be forced, but then again there's consent), you have tyranny.

Should the submissive take away it's will to submit, there's no more dominance, because there's no-one left to dominate.


JJ