True Control

[DJade]

I guess I just have to put in a dissenting opinion.

The submissive cedes power and control to the dominant, (and the dominant takes it,) because it is mutually beneficial to do so.

Just because the sub can take it back, in no way changes the fact that for that period of time, the dominant is the wielder of the power.

My control is not an illusion. If you insist that it is, then the submission that goes with it is even more illusory. In which case, there is no gift at all because it has no value.

I was out of town for 3 days or I would have answered before this. Your first 2 sentences are not anything I originally negated. As far as control being an illusion, what I actually said was that after the control has been given to the dominant, love continues to develop, cementing the control into the hands of the dominant. It is at this point that the control becomes more powerful.

Do I have control of my sub? Yes. Is it, in this case, an illusion? No. Can he rip it away? Yes. Will he? No. Why not? Because he loves me. And because I am able to wield my control in such a way that he both feels and understands my power and respects it. He is a submissive, my submissive. He counts on that. He needs that. And he surrenders to that. But we both have control. My control is not absolute. That is where the illusion comes in.