A couple other things I should mention

1- he has repeatedly specifically stated his wish for a 24/7 relationship, replete with being led around on a leash, available to serve. he is also very shy and worried about the social repercussions of this. He is from a macho culture.

2- I would not mind a 24/7 relationship, but I don't really desire one. To me, it is much more of a turn on and reaffirmation, that he can have complete freedom (and I) and that we can relate in a egalitarian way, but that we, underneath it all, make the CHOICE to define ourselves the way we do.