To me the 24/7 slash bedroom debate is interesting but overrated as an issue. In many ways its better to just think of your D/s experience as part of your ongoing relationship and not get caught up in the external pressures to label it something else; as if somehow '24/7'ers are more real or more valid. The important thing is to grow your D/s until it reaches a 'natural' balance. A highly functioning woman(or man) can still be submissive to one's partner and maintain the control they need to function in their individual life.

Of course it all requires negotiation and an expected honesty in communication between partners. Boundaries should be set and then examined on a regular basis. Expect to spend a considerable amount of time just talking about your roles and how you want to inhabit them. Also one must always expect that things will get muddled and confused and there should be tools at hand to make sure that conflicts are resolved satisfactorily. Overall you should forget about any preconceived notions about how it should work and whether one is truly 24/7 or not. If either partner wants more, or less, there should be a way to manage this without breaking the relationship IF the relationship is healthy.

And what really is the point? I believe it is to live with D/s as a structural backbone to everyday interactions. Not that ALL interactions should outwardly reflect a D/s bias, but that inwardly each of us knows and embraces our role and tries to further the depth of one's commitment to it, and the interaction that brings us so much satisfaction.