Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer Williams View Post
As far as your marriage falling apart, without more details I can't really say, but I had a similar experience where I tried to have a power-equal relationship with my little one for years and all we did was fight, argue, and be miserable. I kept on asking him things like "where do you want to go to eat," "what should we have for lunch," "what movie do you want to watch" and his answer was always "whatever you want," and I was so bent on making us be equal that I'd yell at him to have an opinion, and his response was always "but I just want to please you; I just want what you want."

This misery lasted years until I admitted to myself (and then to him) that yes, I really would much rather dominate and he just sighed and said "Oh, thank God. Now please just tell me what to make for dinner."
This sounds so familiar... in my case, I generally say 'whatever you want' because I know that whatever I say she'll do what she wants anyway