This misery lasted years until I admitted to myself (and then to him) that yes, I really would much rather dominate and he just sighed and said "Oh, thank God. Now please just tell me what to make for dinner."
Something like that, she would often be dominant in bed but was not interested for the rest of the time. Of course when kids come along it is not as easy, but I am sure others have found ways round that problem.
You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give. (Kahil Gibran)