Thanks, sorry I digressed and turned it into a shrink visit. To be honest, when I started the post, I simply wondered if anyone out there was balancing the 2, you know, some people have "online' relationships that maybe their spouses don't know about, so they have on one side an outlet for their desires, but on the other, a "vanilla" partner IRL.

I find I have absolutely no interest in sex with DH anymore, and I see that as an obvious problem.