Wow, I think I hit a nerve in ian 2411

I ruminate a lot on things. This particular subject was just on the forefront of my mind for a while. Ultimately, I'm married to the wrong guy. But that doesn't mean on a non-sexual level I'm not willing to do everything I can to make it work. I've even suggested counseling. Sexually? He just isn't who I need or want, and never will be.

It's a shame that people feel the need to pair up & get married in their early/mid twenties, because when I look back, I didn't even really know who I was back then, much less what I wanted in a partner. That has come with age.

I don't believe in "soul mates" myself, so I guess that was a bad choice of words, but I was kind of going for the hypothetical there. I mean, truly, you would have to meet EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON EARTH practically to find the one who without a doubt is the best match for you.

Maybe that was my real question, as it seems there is a lot of online BDSM stuff out there, and I have a feeling that many people who partake of those sites don't always tell their significant other what they are up to, not in an effort to be sneaky, but because after the fact they realized that they were not willing to push their true feelings aside anymore.

As for being married 30 years, well, I'm halfway there.