Do you have to balance vanilla & non?

[openyoureyes]

I never said that, you have misread my meaning; I said that the children’s interest must come first over the parents. It is obvious to all that if there is a serious breakdown of communication or there is violence or even child abuse then it is in the interest of all to split. However, the one we are talking about is by what [nawteeone] is saying sexual and I can’t believe that any man goes from a healthy sexual appetite to nothing without a damn good reason.

I agree, before throwing in the towel on a marriage or looking to someone else to meet your needs, you should exhaust all possibilities with the person you're with. I think I took too much to heart what you said, as it very much hit a nerve with me. In my own personal situation I felt that I did everything I could before I finally decided I just couldn't do it anymore. I still struggle with the guilt from that decision, so I apologize for my overreaction.