I have to agree with [openyoureyes] on that because if there is something wrong he should be open with it. That is what Maraige is all about trust and loyalty, and if he cannot trust you enough to tell you his problems then he should not expect your loyalty. you have to put your cards on the table and tell him the bottom line. If he still gives you a daft look then you tell him you have needs and if he cannot give you them you will get it elsewhere. maybe it he that wants to be Dommed?
I wish you all the luck in the world [nawteeone] because whatever you choose is not going to be easy.
Regards ian2411