how can you tell a player from the real thing??? i've been burned so many times now, frankly i'm confused..how do you know who is really a Dominant or not? and who is just pretending? i've read all those websites, including castlerealm.. i get taken advantage of because i'm rather naive and inexperienced regarding this..i only discovered the Dom/sub lifestyle about two years ago..i never knew such a thing existed before...thanks..

isabeau