Echos,
I am having a little problem with what you where told. Never and I mean never set yourself up to be a door mat for any dominant. Polite and gracious yes but never a foot stool for any dominant that wishes to step on you. Submission is a gift to be given only to those worthy of it and a title does not qualify anyone as being worthy. The gift of submission must be earned with trust and respect. I will assume your dominant is extremely protective and keeps people from taking advantage of you while you are in training so to don't have to do it yourself.

Truthfully I have a big problem understanding humiliation because like many others I see; if someone likes something or I like it as well I don't see it as humiliating. While there are many things that turn others on that would get the Dom a set of racked nuts if they tried it on me. I do understand it is a big turn on for others and I accept it willingly.

I did spent 4 days with a dominant male as the submissive and many of the items mentioned in IDCrewDawg’s post where experienced. I found none of them arousing in anyway. I guess it was a true submissive gift since he was the only one enjoying the experience. What I leaned was that when it comes to humiliation you really have to care for the person for it to work. For me that takes a very long time and a lot of one on one time before I can trust a person enough to let myself go and enjoy exploring new things.

I have explored humiliation on a smaller scale when I let my sub/switches top me. I find that very arousing at times as they find it when they are on the receiving end. I think it all boils down to the chemistry of the relationship and the individuals involved. Since neither of my subs are into humiliation we don’t really explore it. I do have to make a disclaimer here. There are several items in IDCrewDawg’s list that we would not consider humiliation but we are perverts.

Psynymph,
You do have a very good point. I am a Dom/switch and I get many requests to dominate and humiliate gentlemen via cam and very few requests from women. I am not sure if it has to do more with supply and demand or if men are generally more aggressive in seeking out play partners than women are to satisfy their needs. I think it is probably a combination of both.

The psychological aspects of humiliation I think will vary for each individual, the relationship between the individuals and the experiences they have had explored together. All I can say is I would have to really care for a person and know that it triggered extreme arousal to be able to humiliate them.

Timberwolf,
I have to agree with the lady’s have a baby then generalize. ~chuckles~ kiss