Humilation Debate

[Echoes]

Echos,
I am having a little problem with what you where told. Never and I mean never set yourself up to be a door mat for any dominant. Polite and gracious yes but never a foot stool for any dominant that wishes to step on you. Submission is a gift to be given only to those worthy of it and a title does not qualify anyone as being worthy. The gift of submission must be earned with trust and respect. I will assume your dominant is extremely protective and keeps people from taking advantage of you while you are in training so to don't have to do it yourself.

Jadetiger, not to worry, I am not in this relationship anymore, it was wonderful and new in the very beginning but the more it progressed the more it became damaging. I have not entered into a relationship again since...prefering to find my way back here after a couple years of licking wounds, sorting myself out, seeking friends, looking to learn and deciding if this is the direction I wish to continue in a much healthier atmosphere.

Truthfully I have a big problem understanding humiliation because like many others I see; if someone likes something or I like it as well I don't see it as humiliating.

This was one question I remember asking with no response...how can it be humiliating if it is enjoyable?

[gloombunny]

This was one question I remember asking with no response...how can it be humiliating if it is enjoyable?

Whereas I would ask "how can it be enjoyable if it's not humiliating?"

Seriously, your question can't really be answered. For me, at least, some kinds of humiliation are enjoyable, and that's about all I can really say about it. I can't explain why humiliation is sexy any more than I can explain, say, why a woman's breasts are sexy. They just are.

[Echoes]

Whereas I would ask "how can it be enjoyable if it's not humiliating?"

Seriously, your question can't really be answered. For me, at least, some kinds of humiliation are enjoyable, and that's about all I can really say about it. I can't explain why humiliation is sexy any more than I can explain, say, why a woman's breasts are sexy. They just are.

I love how you think !

...and thank you