Humilation Debate

[annie]

It's kind of odd. Women are, as a generalization, better at dealing with feelings. Men are, as a generalization, better at coping with physical pain. Yet you can find as many female subs as you like who are masochists, and plenty of sub men into being humiliated. I'm not sure what the message in that is, I never really thought about it before.

*Looking REALLY hard to find something else in Tw's post....

Actually, after rereading the entire thing, the above paragraph stuck out still. But, this time not so much for the men/pain reference *snickers.*

The part that stuck this time was the "Yet you can find as many female subs as you like who are masochists, and plenty of sub men into being humiliated."

Perhaps that entire sentence is the key (or at least a portion of it.) Women are more emotional... therefore what a female sub may experience that is "defined" as humiliation is processed mentally to help them overcome/deal with the feeling of humiliation, at times being processed into the emotion of love, devotion, pleasure, anger, etc. That way women are better able to protect their mental states without letting the emotion of "humiliation" take over. But, i do think, on some levels it is an automatic response and is just how women are programmed.

In the same process women who are masochists *raises my hand* perhaps enjoy that aspect of it due to the fact that it is a straight forward, somewhat simple emotion to deal with (for the most part) and doesn't confuse/muddle up things when they finally slip to that edge. But... this thread is not about pain... so moving on!

Men on the other hand tend to shy away from emotions. So when some men ask (beg) for humiliation are they really searching for the true emotion or for the physical reaction that is evoked of a stronger/Dominate female figure? Is their desire for humiliation accurate or is it viewed by them as part of the foreplay.

There is a thread on here from Silke about a humiliation task she had done in the Academy (which i can't find at the moment...grrrrr) and the affects after it until she was able to speak to her Master and the TM that assigned it. That is just one example of how the emotions, etc. continued to play out in the sub after the task. What i now wonder though is, had it been a male sub (which the task is not designed for), what would the after emotions have been? Would they have had the need for reassurance or assuming the top analogy is somewhat accurate, would the after effects of the assignment been more sexually/arousal based?

*Disclaimer ~ i am not trying to generalize all women and men on the emotional aspects... just wondering out loud!*