You guys are great - thanks again for taking the time to think about this problem and offer your ideas for what the heck is going on.

One thing I can say for sure - it isn't a mindfuck. At least not one he's doing on purpose, to show his domination. He's not that good. I say that with love, not to be snarky. I hope someday he'll be that good, but there's a long way to go yet.

As far as getting worried/freaked out? I don't know. There's only been one lovely positive D/s experience in the last 2 months and it was absolutely great, for both of us. Very loving, very tender, very mental (as opposed to sensation-only play) and I can't for the life of me believe that he would have gotten freaked out by that! But, I've been wrong about him before, so who knows?

Oh, I would never demand "more horniness". I can, at least, ask him what's wrong. Unfortunately, when I tried to do just that last night, it came out wrong (I am far too emotional about this) and we ended up in a mini-fight. I need to calm down a lot before I try to talk with him again.

Too wound up to think straight,
jeanne