Actually I find it hard to believe anyone can spot Doms or subs in a crowd...

That's a bit like the old myth that gay people can spot another across a room.

It's also somewhat of a generalisation that subs are all shy & retiring.

From what I've seen, few young guys have the self-confidence to be a Dom- that seems to create something of a shortage. Collarme seems to be peopled by 'Santas.'

However moonlitsub, no matter who you are or what you want, you only need one decent person. Geez when you're not even 25, you have your whole life ahead of you- enjoy being single while you can!