It was only when I had truly decided to stop looking, to take life as it comes, and I meant it in my heart of hearts; it was only then that I was found and saved. It sounds like you have a lot of focus on your career and what you're doing for yourself- That was another big thing with me. I had decided to get my act together and start focusing on my life, so you're already a step ahead of me. I do have one word of caution, though- Don't jump on the first Dom/me who comes along. I'm not saying S/he won't be the right one, but with your eagerness to be in a committed relationship, you could be setting yourself up to settle for less than you deserve because you don't think you can find better. I guess my advice would be better phrased: Don't settle. You deserve the best.

Your relationship will come when you least expect it. At least, that's how it often seems to happen. But it will come, so don't give up.

As an aside to an above comment: My husband knew I was submissive, when there was no reason to suspect, in my mind. If anything, I was overbearing and abrasive (I'm sure that's shocking, eh? Hah), but he knew. There are people who can do things like that.