Quote Originally Posted by underwhere View Post
With regard specifically to finding suitable people to "play with", its probably safer to avoid using words which could potentially be inflammatory, both in writing and in speech, because you never know who you might offend.
As far as "fag" is concerned I think it's a question of communication and what is commonly used. Dan Savage, which is mainstream of mainstream gay media.... uses the word "fag" constantly. I blame him.

I'm sorry if I reacted strongly. But trying very hard not to offend various groups I think is the hallmark of cultural relativism, which is a movement I strongly detest. Conflict is good. In conflict we learn. If we're constantly tip toeing around to avoid insulting various groups we:

1) will never understand what various groups really find insulting.
2) won't know why they find it insulting.
3) hampering communication by focusing on the wrong things.
4) limiting our usable vocabulary, (I like naughty words).

Anyhoo, I can see both sides of this argument. There's a time and place for everything. But this forum, is for me, a place to learn.