vanilla relationship, but i NEED more!

[StillLearning]

I'm in a very similar situation with my fiance. His main balk is that he doesn't want to become an abuser (his own childhood speaking), but is willing to learn more and possibly explore. I'm really hoping to find information to open him up to the culture.

[toy_k]

I'm in a very similar situation with my fiance. His main balk is that he doesn't want to become an abuser (his own childhood speaking), but is willing to learn more and possibly explore. I'm really hoping to find information to open him up to the culture.

It can be very frustrating for us subs to ask to be dominated, in my opinion it kind of defeats the purpose. But i know exactly what you mean about the abuse thing. My boyfriend watches these videos about girls being strapped up and whipped til they are red and raw, who wouldnt think abuse. I try to explain to him the meaning behind the whipping, and show him other apects of play.

[MasterNox]

I'm in a very similar situation with my fiance. His main balk is that he doesn't want to become an abuser (his own childhood speaking), but is willing to learn more and possibly explore. I'm really hoping to find information to open him up to the culture.

That is what I am often afraid of, I don't want to let my dominance turn into aggression which could turns into abuse. I am a compassionate person and very loving, I love my sub very deeply.